Embracing the Art of Aging: A Mindset Shift
As we journey through life, a significant milestone awaits us: turning 40. As an elder millennial, I’ve found myself pondering the implications of growing older. What does it mean to be no longer young? Mortgage payments, pre-menopause, and midlife crises – if we can afford them – seem to loom on the horizon. But when exactly does midlife begin?
Seeking Wisdom from the Ages
I turned to my grandmother-in-law, Shirley Hodes, who was on the cusp of turning 105. Her response to my question was both surprising and inspiring: “I think ‘iddle-aged’ is when you start collecting Social Security.” When I asked if 50 wasn’t considered middle-aged, she laughed, saying, “Oh goodness, no! At 50, you’re just starting to live.” This mindset, I realized, is key to a long and healthy life.
The Power of Positive Thinking
Research suggests that our mental approach to aging has a significant impact on our wellbeing and longevity. Eric S. Kim, a psychologist affiliated with Harvard University’s Lee Kum Sheung Center for Health and Happiness, notes that negative beliefs about aging can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, while positive beliefs can prompt us to form healthy habits. By building strong relationships, taking on new challenges, and coping with life’s ups and downs, we can increase our chances of living a long and healthy life.
Role Models for a Vibrant Life
Shirley Hodes, now 108, is a shining example of this approach. She’s always been passionate about learning, cultivating relationships, and giving back to others. After retiring at 70, she audited classes at her local college and made it a point to get to know her fellow residents in the assisted living facility. Her secret to a vibrant life? “Concentrate on the positive,” she advises.
A New Perspective on Aging
Inspired by Shirley’s example, I’ve decided to rethink my approach to aging. Instead of fearing the passage of time, I’m embracing the idea that 50 is just the beginning of a new chapter in life. By focusing on the positive and cultivating a growth mindset, I’m excited to see what the future holds.
Living Life to the Fullest
As Dr. George E. Vaillant, a Harvard Medical School psychiatry professor, notes, “Keep your sense of humor, give something of yourself to others, make friends who are younger than you, learn new things and have fun.” By following this advice, we can create a life that’s rich in experience, connection, and purpose. So, let’s raise a glass to embracing the art of aging – and living life to the fullest!
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